Life, Health & The Universe
Life, health and the universe are all connected. In a world where we are more connected than ever, we have become disconnected from ourselves. In this podcast, along with guests, I discuss ideas in a celebration of life, an exploration of health and some wonderment of the universe.
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Life, Health & The Universe
Unlocking Creative Potential: The Holistic Approach to Self-Care
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Lucy Hyland, the visionary behind the Self-Care Revolution, joins us to share her personal journey. Lucy's unique path led her to develop a holistic self-care toolbox that includes Nutritional Therapy, Art Therapy, and Human Design. Together, we explore how these tools empower individuals in their wellness journeys, highlighting the role of creativity and community in fostering a balanced and harmonious life.
Have you ever felt lost in a task, completely absorbed and unaware of time passing by? That's the flow state, and it’s not just limited to artists. Lucy and I discuss how everyday activities like gardening or rearranging furniture can become meditative experiences that ground us in the present moment. Through personal anecdotes, we reveal that creativity is an intuitive process that can defy consistent theories yet is powerfully transformative when experienced.
The conversation shifts to embrace creativity in both personal and professional landscapes. We dive into the unpredictable nature of creativity, how it can disrupt the monotony of daily routines, and the organisational challenges of integrating creative processes. Lucy sheds light on how Human Design can help individuals break free from limiting self-perceptions and unlock untapped creative potential.
We wrap up with a critique of self-care's commercialisation, advocating for a compassionate approach that focuses on community support and holistic well-being.
Join us for insights that inspire a more authentic, creative, and connected life.
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Today I'm welcoming Lucy Highland, who's dialing in from Waterford in Ireland, so I have to say I'm looking forward to having this conversation and hearing this wonderful, beautiful accent for the next hour. Lucy is the owner and founder of the Self-Care Revolution, so no doubt you'll be able to guess what we're going to be talking about today, but it might not be exactly what you think. Lucy's been working in the wellness industry for over two decades and has qualifications in applied art and psychology, art therapy and nutritional therapy and, as a guide, she brings these modalities together in her work, as well as interweaving embodied wisdom, eco-arts and human design into her offerings. Lucy, thank you so much for joining me. I'm really looking forward to our conversation and, yeah, listening to your accent for the next hour.
Speaker 2:Good to be here, Nadine. I'm excited to be here. This will be fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm really looking forward to this. It's kind of a topic that I don't know a whole bunch about. Well, self-care, yes, and we'll get into that a bit, but not a bit a lot. But, yeah, we have quite different. It's interesting. I was listening to another recording of a podcast that you did and we have definitely got some things in common, but quite, uh, diverse as well. So that's really interesting and one of the things that I love about you know, connecting the dots, um, but let's doing what you're doing in your work.
Speaker 2:I sounded great when you were listing off all those things. You sounds really cool. Yeah, I'm always surprised at the. I think the journeys we all take like we're're not on. This certainly hasn't been my experience, that we're on this kind of linear path where we kind of had this goal and we ended up working towards that and achieving it. That certainly hasn't been my perspective and I have those people in my life and you know they're great, but it's not something that I've been able to really relate to in my own process and there's a whole load of reasons for that.
Speaker 2:But sometimes I feel like I'm a breadcrumb follower. It's like something will show up and it will be of interest and it will be of curiosity and intrigue and I'll just follow it and I never know particularly why I started it. And so, even if I go back to my early education, it was always people. It was people and place and I learned that through geography and psychology. That was my blend when I was first started studying and then I took this kind of dark road into the world of kind of planning and social planning and ended up living in Australia for many years, working in the western suburbs of Sydney, which were, you know, a high immigrant, a lot of socioeconomic problems, and it really got me thinking about how, how do we maintain a sense of wellness and well-being in our own lives, given the places that we live, given the factors that influence us, given the particular paths we all we all choose, and how we end up in places that we never really thought we'd end up in there, and how do we react and respond to places. So I worked a lot with the health department when I was working in Sydney and it got me really interested in the idea of health and at the same time I had an illness in my own life and ended up having to go back to Ireland and actually recovering from that illness and while I was doing it I got really again. The breadcrumbs were there about OK, what's what's going on in terms of health and the individual, and I kind of took it away from the society aspect, where I'd spent so much time focusing, and actually went into more of the individual, this idea. Well, if we start on the inside and we, we kind of work out how's that for a model, rather than I was working kind of governmentally around policy and planning and trying to set up systems where people could live in some sort of a balanced kind of harmonious way with their, with their environments.
Speaker 2:And I ended up about 10-15 years in the nutritional therapy world and I loved that and I would have been very holistic in my perspective. So, even though I recognized that nutrition was a cornerstone of good health and I still do I recognised that there were so many other factors at play and as I saw people and we worked on their nutrition or their lifestyle, I just kind of felt like there was something missing in it all and I didn't really understand what that was. But I was curious enough to start kind of digging into it. And at that same time, just through kind of sheer coincidence, I ended up back exploring my own creative world and I started with reading the Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, which is a fantastic guide for anyone who's looking to reconnect with that creative side and creativity. You know I have a very broad term for that. I don't see that as holding a pen or a paintbrush. This, to me, is how we get to be creative in our lives. And so I ended up going back into formal education and studying applied art and then art therapy to really start getting the nuances around material connection to the material, use of the material and how, when we come together in community around particular tasks such as making or building or creating, really interesting things begin to happen.
Speaker 2:So I then have kind of I couldn't let go of the world of health because it was, and well-being because it was such a fundamental part of my existence. But I also recognized that there was a merging and a melding and a kind of a bringing together of those worlds. And at a similar time I also discovered human design, which I know is a love of the two of us, and it is the system I that really gives you a perspective on your energy and how to use your energy and how best to navigate the life that you lead, through making really good decisions, through knowing yourself really well, through developing self-awareness and self-knowledge. And so all of these things started kind of happening concurrently and then they all came together in this, in this toolbox which is a, which is a fabulous toolbox, where I can draw on the knowledge and understanding of human design. I can connect in individually with people's creative spirits, with their creative intuition, but then I can also bring them together in groups and allow them to recognize that they're not these isolated individuals with this set of problems that they need to solve, that actually, when they come together in community, they can see that they're part of something, they're part of the system, they're part of the community and it kind of gives them a perspective.
Speaker 2:And one of the things that I really noticed as I was doing this work was we exist in a world of active, progressive achievement manifestation and we live in a very active world and I really recognize, when I've watched people, whether they're being human design and they were simply going through a process of looking at themselves, becoming more self-aware, whether it be in the creative process where they had to surrender and let go and actually submit to the material and enter a dialogue with material what I noticed is that creativity allows us to move into a more receptive realm. It actually it's like a panacea, is a big word, but it gives us something to counteract this focus on growth, achievement, expansion, and it kind of allows us to sit back, reflect, rest, recuperate, restore, rebalance and I think you see more and more how there's an industry that is always there to assist people to simply shift into another gear, another way of being whereby you can open yourself up more to.
Speaker 2:I don't like using the word magic, but it's very hard for artists to describe what they do or what they witness when they see people in the creative process, but certainly opens them up in a different realm within themselves. That realm is often neglected in this world that we're all existing in. Yes Wow we're all existing in.
Speaker 1:Yes, wow, I know I, I know I was like I'm just I was like, okay, I've got lots of questions coming up here, but I'm just going to stay present, they'll come back, if they'll come back, if, um, you know if it's meant to be. But I wanted, I would love, to continue with this thread about creativity, because you've mentioned, like it's obviously a massive part of what you do, and you mentioned that it doesn't have to be artistic necessarily. I don't know if they were the exact words that you were using, but yeah, but. But also that there is some like you're kind of, from what you described, it seems like you're bringing something from within. It's a form of expression, um, and yeah.
Speaker 1:So I wonder, like if you could kind of give us some examples of how? Like, how do you, when someone comes to you, like I'm just, I'll just get straight in with this, because, because I'm really curious about this idea of creativity and what it means, when someone um comes to you and they say, lucy, I want to work with you, you in whatever format it is, and you want them to connect with their creativity, how do you bring that out of them? If it's not just art per se? How do they know when they're being creative or how do you know it's?
Speaker 2:I suppose I can only witness what I notice in people. And so what I witness when I am with people individually or in a, in a um, in a group, is that it's like I would, I'd be quite, um, I'd be quite a sensing person. Um, just, I tend to pick up on cues, kind of more from a sensation based, and there's something happened in the process where it's like there's a drop and it's like, it's like we drop into another way of being, because you can imagine, let's just pretend it's the surface, so let's just on the surface there's the waves and there's the movement, and you know, people will come into a session, people will come in and they'll have this like this motorized vehicle that's just running, and when you provide a space for them that is grounded, very tactile, very sensory, then something happens where they they drop and they can feel it. You can feel it. Can I describe it or pick a moment? Probably not. But there's something that happens when we drop and Chitset Mahali wrote an awful lot about this concept of flow and in that moment when we drop, what happens is we enter into something called a state of flow and in that state, what people tend to report is that time doesn't seem to exist.
Speaker 2:They're conscious, they're thinking, but the activity that they're doing is such that it takes enough of their focus and concentration concentration but doesn't overwhelm their thinking and yet they engage in the physical act of doing it. So it is quite physical to me. It could be gardening, it could be singing, it could be doodling, it could be rearranging your furniture and putting cushions in different places. So this is what I notice and this is what I see, and it's like the world is suspended for that period of time. And for artists it can be something that they can engage in in hours, you know forgetting to, you know almost forgetting to eat, like not noticing the world around them, just completely engaged in the flow of their own creative process. Or it is something that we can dip into, whether we're, you know, just waiting for a bus and you know decide to, you know, just draw on the sand at the bus stop or something you know your feet. It's not necessarily this, it doesn't have to be staged in a particular way, and that's what I notice. And to me, in that there's a surrendering, because you do have an element of being in control, but actually you're in a much more relational place. You're in a much more relational way. You're actually relating and interacting to what's around you in a very different way, in a very different way. So that is, I have a friend, a great friend, here in for sure.
Speaker 2:When I arrived here. I've only just moved here. I've been through kind of process in the last year or two and and I met her and she's she's decided to write a book on the theory of creativity, because when she was doing the research on what creativity is and how do we define it and how do we describe it to people and how then do we therefore teach people the basics of creativity, she couldn't find, she couldn't find a consistent theory, she couldn't find consistent language, and so she has gone and developed her own model of creativity. So it's always been a very difficult, intangible thing, something that people recognize and can articulate and recognize when they're, when they're in it and when they come out of it.
Speaker 1:yeah, I think it's interesting what you said about the like gardening you know that that being one of the examples or changing your furniture around, and it's that, yeah, that feeling of like time. I know that we moved house 12 months ago and I was painting and I'd never painted before and I was painting a shed, and it was just like I didn't think about anything else, just paint, just you know, it was like that's kind of. And the same thing happens to me when I'm gardening. I'm not thinking about all of the other things in my life that I've got to do, I'm just in that moment doing what I need to do in that moment. So I think that that's, yeah, kind of where I recognize that feeling for myself and I can't. That makes sense, like gardening, what so many people love. Gardening, right, and that's probably why. But it's kind of like a form of meditation, isn't it?
Speaker 2:exactly. And so even in um like I remember lockdown I was I was kind of struggling with my own creativity a bit. So traditionally what I do is I weave, so I create hand-built weaves and I would frame and they would be like more like a wall hanging than a like a practical, useful object. They're way more decorative. And I and in lockdown I was struggling with that creativity, um, because of everything that was going on and and the difficulties that we were all facing, and so I actually started doodling and it was, it was, it's, it's a drawing.
Speaker 2:So you use, you know mark, know mark making tools, a pencil, a pen, a marker or whatever the case may be, and you doodle and you're not drawing. I don't start out to say we're going to draw a cat. I literally just follow a very kind of more embodied sense of movement and it's about from when I, when I look at it, it's it. It doesn't necessarily have to achieve a result necessarily, but it is an engagement in the present moment in a particular way. So I can sit still, I can close my eyes, I can do those things, I can close my eyes, I can do those things, I can do them for short periods of time, but if I'm doing something, then I can meditate, quote, unquote, whatever that term means. I can meditate for long periods of time, for more sustained periods of time, and it gives me access to not better or worse something different than what you get in a more formal meditation. That suits me.
Speaker 2:I mean, I also dance as a form of meditation, so I'm always pushing boundaries for myself so that I can find tools that I can work with in order to find that space. Because, at the end of the day, what I recognize more than anything else is there needs to be periods of my day where I'm still, be periods of my day where I'm still, and it's in that stillness that I get a perspective that I can't get when I'm busy. And and for my own sense of well-being, my own sense attempting to keep my sanity in today's world, I need that antidote. I need the opposite of that, and it's interesting because it's finding a balance that's correct for you, because I know if I'm too stationary, if I'm still for too long, I can do a little kind of self-imploding. So it's that. It's that movement of the body whereby it desires to be still and quiet and then it wants to go back out to the world and interact, and then it wants to retreat again. I've worked up for myself in terms of my own process.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think, yeah, it's interesting because I love to go, like I take my dog for a walk on my own every morning and I'm not one for listening to anything. I'm like I'm going to listen to nature, but I get I kind of the physical movement gets my thoughts processing, but like in that kind of flow where they, like I just I'm like gone and I'm like, oh, I've walked this far already, so it's yeah, it's a fine line between, like needing the physicality to get there because I also need to, like I need to stop it within that walk and and get that feeling of yeah, like, yeah, taking it all in, and as soon as I start moving again, the the mind, the thoughts, but they're kind of like, they're those thoughts, you know, where you don't really think about anything, kind of thoughts like that kind of semi-meditation. Yeah, it's interesting how that physicality can make a difference to it and the stillness can make a difference to it. I've been thinking, I wonder, and the stillness can can make a difference to it. I've been thinking, I wonder, well, and you probably, like this is probably a thing like I've.
Speaker 1:You know, I've spoken to a couple of other guests about creativity and like we actually are, as humans, creative, right, we create our reality. So when we see creativity like that, yeah, we're creating all the time, right? But I wonder, but it's almost like we've tried to pigeonhole it into the arts, isn't it? Yeah, I was. What was I going to say? Oh, and I wonder whether you could speak to like creativity being that kind of more feminine. Would you say it's more of the feminine aspect, like intuitive flow, whereas the, the male, can be a bit more kind of like.
Speaker 2:These are that kind of well, we live more in a sort of society of that masculine it is interesting because I think, I think you know, creativity is a massive term and I think the, the creative process can, can, can, can go in many directions. So say, for example I'll give you an example weaving is my craft. Okay, on the one hand, we can have, um, a large scale loom, which you may have seen in on tv or in various productions. Um, that's mechanized and where they're working to a very specific pattern. So they know exactly what they're doing and they want to achieve exactly that result, and they've designed it and they've, they've planned it, and then they implement it through the, the creation process. So that's a form, and you're going to end up with a carpet or wall tapestry that may end up being very functional at the end of the day. So that's when creativity bears an outcome. In the workplace. Companies are seeing creativity now as the most important asset amongst their staff, because creativity leads to such innovation. Okay, so that's one form. The other form is, say, for example, my approach to creativity.
Speaker 2:So, in my weaving, I don't have any plan. I don't have any plan, I work intuitively with the material. So I will have a frame, like a circular frame generally, and I need a container. So I need to hold the weight of the pattern, I need to set a really good warp which is like the foundation of the piece. I need to ensure that's in place. But after that I can do. I can go anywhere. My pieces evolve. They can move into very different realms. So my intention might be around healing, around connection, about exploration, about navigation. They might be intentions, but actually I move very much with the material. So then my process can be described as very feminine.
Speaker 2:I'm working with the unknown all the time. I don't have a set end result necessarily. So it's really I'm wondering, as I'm speaking to you, the intention actually is really important. So I mean I do work in the organizations, communities, and I'll go in and they'll. They'll talk about wanting to introduce creative tools into the workplace and we are going to do, um, a weekend project over four weeks, and the management like right.
Speaker 2:So what's the end result going to be? What's the product going to be? How's that going to look? Can you name exactly what's going to, what the outcomes? And and I'm like I don't know. Let's see what happens when we put a group of people together. Let's see what happens when they don't get told what to do but they work from their own intuition. I really like blue. God, I'm really attracted to blue. Today I was driving to work and the sunrise was gorgeous and the sky was gorgeous and that's the blue I want to use. So you're just in a very different engagement and dialogue with life. So that's where things get really interesting, because we shift out of a very predictable, automated, outcome-driven focus into something that's fluid and that scares the living daylights out of people because we we seek more than anything to have a sense of control over our lives.
Speaker 2:We seek predictability. We have a predictable brain that is working nonstop to create a predictable day that will unfold in a certain way, and people get so much comfort. But we're not all necessarily here to be comfortable. Life isn't predictable. So in the creative process we can explore within a relatively contained space how we can react to and how we can work with the utter and complete unknown. And what happens is we begin to see spaces actually arrive that open up within us and outside of us, where there's the potential for something completely new. Because if you've packed your day full of the predictable, what you think want, what you're expecting to get, there's very little space there for a surprise, an inspiration, an on previously thought notion. And that's where creativity looks like. It serves it off the plate and it allows us to explore and expand in a very different way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, wow.
Speaker 2:And when you witness that within somebody, I mean it's such an honor to witness that within somebody, because they think they're this, you know, they think life is this, yeah, and even within themselves they're like you know, and the creative process opens. It just opens a few doorways and you can feel the expansion and people would be. I've never, I've never thought about myself like that before. I've never seen that myself within myself before. Oh, I didn't know that existed. Oh, I thought that was gone. Oh, there's, there's, there's something, and that's a very different way of approaching life than the way most of us are. Way, most of us yeah, I was.
Speaker 1:I'm kind of curious at this point to um here because obviously we both are part of a human design community. You've been working with human design for quite some years I'm pretty fresh, um but you you use human design in your work. I'm guessing that potentially it's not something you do as much in groups like it's probably easier to do it individually.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I'm very much working on an individual basis, but I've done a couple of groups now and again. You know we're part of a community. You see how one person brings something up and it connects a whole lot of dots around, so I'd love to move towards that maybe in the future.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm just wondering like that kind of you know, the way that you're explaining when describing when someone who doesn't necessarily way, that you're explaining when describing when someone who doesn't necessarily think that they're creative or that like, and they live in this kind of box of this is who I am, and that can be from conditioning, right as we. What we know in human design is conditioning, like all of the layers that other people have put on us, and part of human design for us grown-ups is like actually being able to go oh, that's not me. And so I wonder how you connect those two things and how they like how that works with someone when they're kind of, because that conditioning is kind of like what you explained as being in that you know, yeah, not knowing that, not, not, or kind of recognizing those things in yourself when you start to open up your creativity, but it's almost like a remembering, and then the chart could confirm that yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And I think you know I'm I'm a fifth line, so I'm quite heretical and so my my approach to human design is different. I've never gone the road of you know the, the traditional education human design. It isn't something that I necessarily connected with in terms of doing, you know, readings or looking at it from that approach of telling people what their chart was all about. Yeah, where I tend to engage is I get people creative about their chart and so simple acts of drawing, connecting into the particular flow of energy, playing with this very set. You know it's a mechanism, it's a very kind of scientifically rigorous mechanism.
Speaker 2:That's how I find human design and a bit like the frame in a loom, that's really important. A bit like the frame in a loom, that's really important. Where it gets interesting is where you begin to play and explore and get curious about that. And I think you know we can become very fixed on what we think human design is about and who we think we are, just as much inside and outside the human design community. And I tend to push and nudge at those notions because I see the potential that there's more to you than and, if we get stuck in a particular story, whether it be a human design story or a story from our parents, or a story from whatever.
Speaker 2:I can't remember, even this morning, I woke up and I was getting ready and I started a story in my head. I can't remember what it is now and I remember saying to myself well, that's just the story of what happened. There's nothing in what happened before that necessarily needs to happen in this particular situation, unless you just want to replicate that situation again and perhaps learn more from a different angle. But actually the beauty of human design is it tells us where we can go to, the places we can go to within ourselves that are reliable, so that in times of stress or overwhelm or when we're having to make really difficult choices or decisions, then there's a place inside of us which is consistent and reliable that we can go to. Outside of that, there's 1061 variations of a gate Wow, of one gate and so it's very difficult for me to think that if we share the same gates in human design, if we share the same line in human design, that we're going to have in any way the same experience.
Speaker 2:And again, creativity takes that. This is who I am to. Okay, well, why can't we play and explore that through a visual realm, through an engaging material? Yes, again, beginning to open up doors and see beyond the limitation of how we see things. It's interesting, you know, this limitation is and with Pluto in 60 for so long which is the gate of limitation in human design we're there to see the limitations, but in the seeing of them we get to transcend them, we get to push beyond them once we begin to acknowledge and see them. It starts getting interesting when we begin to look beyond and in a situation where, on a global scale, we don't seem to have a whole lot of solutions right now, when we engage in the creative act, we begin to see beyond the way we're seeing right now.
Speaker 1:And that's where it gets interesting yeah, it opens up like possibility yeah, yeah, yeah potentials all right, I uh, your, your business, your offering is called, well, your business is called the self care revolution. So we've got to talk about self-care. Um and um. I, as I said, I I was doing a little bit of research before our call and I I listened to another podcast that you've been on and, um, you were talking about your uh, past work, I think, in nutrition and like what, um, how your perception of self-care kind of changed based on stuff that was going on within the health and wellness space can you talk a?
Speaker 1:little bit to us about that and how, like, how, yeah, what, I guess our sorry, our um, it's like our you know what our perception of self-care is, or what we're told self-care is, and and in fact, what you're um suggesting self-care is something a little bit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I suppose what I really wanted to do and and I wanted to do this personally and so I wanted to do this other with others is begin to challenge and question a very overused, over-commercialized word. And I guess, when I started out and I was working in nutrition, I was working with individual clients, I was working with companies and organizations around this I just felt harshness, I suppose, in it and that harshness didn't sit comfortably with me because there was an assumption that, um, there was a problem that you had to fix it, um, that it was an individual problem, and that, um, it was another thing that you were doing wrong, right, and that I witnessed people who came into me who were who were sorry, you dropped out a little bit there.
Speaker 1:Can you say those?
Speaker 2:words again. Yeah, I met people who were using these you know these overall positive traits like health, nutrition, well-being but they were using it almost as a dick, rather than the carriage. You know it was really. You know I've got to motivate myself, I've got to do this and there wasn't the love there.
Speaker 2:There wasn't the passion for themselves. And I thought, well, if we're not loving ourselves and being compassionate with ourselves whilst we change, or whilst we motivate ourselves or whilst we go and orchestrate, you know, particular changes in our lives, then I really struggled and I didn't understand at the time that I was going to find human design, which is embedded in this whole notion of self-love. And I was going to find human design embedded in this whole notion of self-love and I was going to find creativity, which is really a portal and an opening into self-awareness, but in a way that is self-acceptance, you know, seeing and recognizing all those parts of yourself. And so I kind of, you know, started switching this idea of self-care from this thing that we did like I've got to put the self-care on the calendar and people do that, they have their purple and that's their time to do this, and I get that. But when it's not embedded in an actual love and compassion for yourself, it can get very difficult, very easy, because it's just another thing. Wanted it to be something that radiated from within, that self-love, and that allowed you to move out into the world in a particular way that there was a drawing, a pulling out of expression rather than what I was feeling, which was very much, and and so it's.
Speaker 2:It's, it's a curiosity, it's in human design terms, it's an experiment. It's not a five steps to anything it's. It's a, it's an incorporation of a way of being that allows the softness and the gentleness to then guide the activity, which is a very different, like the creative process. It's turning it on its head, it's moving away from this action orientated into a lot more of a of a more kind of sense sensing way. So there are days that you you might have a very different experience of how you look after yourself one day to the next, depending on how your day is going. You know, and I notice people in the busyness of their day, just put on the kettle, just make a cup of tea and just sit for five minutes nursing that warmth of a cup of tea and looking at the garden before you go to whatever next yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1:It definitely coming from the health and fitness industry. You see that kind of you know that the shoulds and people coming because they have to or like smashing themselves when they exercise because they feel bad about themselves, and and just the yeah, different energy that that creates around the whole thing. Yeah, it's true isn't it?
Speaker 2:yeah, really it's. It's sticky and I, you know, you probably see it too. Um, obviously from a different perspective, in terms of a more physical perspective.
Speaker 2:I was having this conversation with a friend the other day and she's a, you know, she's a three on the Enneagram, you know, she's manifesting generator, she has a lot of energy, she's very achievement focused and I see, and I was very curious with her and and I asked her to just wonder about what is this going to get her, this thing that she wants to achieve, the body, the career, whatever it is what is that going to give her? And to put that into some sort of a sense, and then I was like, well, imagine if you had that right now. So we do these things so that we can find a pathway to loving ourselves. If I say I'm going to feel better about myself, I'm going to look a little bit better and I'm just going to have a bit more confidence when I walk down the street, and so we know what we're looking for and how about you embody and incorporate those aspects into yourself first doesn't stop you from going out and achieving those things. But there's this, this twist.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like turn yes yeah yeah, it's doing it because.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's doing it to take care of yourself, because you care about yourself, compared to doing it because you think, and that you'll like yourself better when yes, very, very different approach yeah, yeah and quite subtle really yeah, I mean, I notice, I notice now in a day I can, I can feel it when I begin to push, when I I you know, I you know I might start oh, I can't, you know, I really need to get to that next thing and I can feel it.
Speaker 2:There's a tension, there's a drive, there's a there's kind of like this motoring, this kind of willing myself forward, and it's it's.
Speaker 2:It takes a moment in those situations to actually, you know, even when people walk into a room with me, I get them to sit back in a chair, I get them to feel the seat under their sit bones, I get their backs to relax into the back of the seat.
Speaker 2:Really simple things that switch out of this active kind of ready to pounce any moment now zone into a okay, where's their, where's their space within me? And I dance a lot, and so a lot of dance is finding more space within me to actually hold. Finding more space within me to actually hold, not just that thriving, successful, moving forward, progressive individual that's part of who I am but that she can sit alongside this more restful, more receptive, more intuitive, being that they can actually have a relationship with each other that doesn't have to be one bashing the other over the head form an internal relationship with, and when we get those internal relationships and that's where the tools come in, like the creativity, the two, the human design tools to build those internal relationships, we then start having a different experience with our external relationships.
Speaker 1:I think one of the things that you said about that kind of like catching your, you know, having to catch yourself yourself, like. For me, those moments can be almost like when you, when you get caught up in that busy-ness or you know needing to do more, needing to do more, that can actually be a form of escapism as well from, like, you know, sitting with yourself and any discomfort you might be having, like there's um's not, it's not necessarily wrong, but when you can cut, when you can begin to witness that behavior, it's like reaching for the phone or, you know, doing things for the sake of doing them, sort of thing, which I didn't catch myself doing.
Speaker 2:One of the things I I like about the approach of human design is there there's no moral judgment in human design. There's no right or wrong, there's no correct definition. There's, there's, there's never a sense of judgment about the complexity of what it is to be a human being. So as human beings we have such an array of parts of ourselves and I can even feel it in my kind of that, that G-centre feeling, even as I'm talking. You know that sense of continually finding ways of making peace with all those aspects of ourselves so that they can coexist, because that striving, focused, achievement driven individual has such an important part in our lives, lives. But she doesn't have to be fighting all of the other parts. She can exist, she can relate, she can seek advice from that other part of us that may be more considered, maybe more wise, maybe more experienced.
Speaker 2:But I find that when we're continuously achieving and doing, we're not allowing those spaces of reflection. I mean you talked about your walk at the start. You know that walk where you're actually digesting your life, whether you're consciously focusing on it or whether thoughts are just moving through one after the other, after another, another. You're giving yourself that space to kind of realign yourself and actually allow that digestion, and then that digestion gets permeated into other aspects of your, of your way of being in this world yeah, we're getting close to the end of our call.
Speaker 1:We're just getting started, part two coming up. I'd just love to hear a little bit more well and obviously for our listeners as well about your like, your offerings, your work. You've talked about working with people in person, but also you work online. Um, how does that all like? Who would come to you? Who is it? Someone who feels lost? Is it someone who just wants to tap into their creativity? They need more time for rest and and repair, like what. So I've asked you about 10 questions in in a row there, but my work is is split, as you say.
Speaker 2:So here in Ireland I work very much on the ground. I work usually I work with groups. That tends to be like 80 percent or 90 percent of my in-person work, um, and that creates its own. I get a lot out of that personally, but also I love working with that group dynamic. So that's my in-person work and that is mostly creativity based, and that tends to be fueling a lot then of what's happening on my online in my online stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so for my online stuff, at the moment I am doing a like one-to-one sessions where we focus particularly either on human design or on the creative aspects. So, as you say, for a lot of the time it's people. They're at that maybe transition zone and they be stuck in a particular way. They may be stuck in a particular way of thinking or a particular position and they they need that, they need that little bit of movement and I will guide them through the creative process to see where there may be room or space in terms of change, or not even change, in terms of shifting their perspective about the way things are, and then allowing, allowing a lot more creativity and space for creativity within their life, so that they begin to continuously shift their perspective, kind of, about where they are.
Speaker 2:Um, I also run some online courses. I do some mindful doodling, meditation, doodling workshops. They can. They come up um, for me in in ireland that tends to be a real wintry evening fire kind of a kind of an activity, um, and that with that. That's where we can come together in group and we can begin to co-regulate as a group. Um, and we go through a series of meditation and creative meditative and exercises that I've developed, um, so that you can see that kind of that kind of separation in terms of the work.
Speaker 2:I still really enjoy working with human design, working with creativity, working with the tools that I have in order to allow people to shift and begin to see new potentials and new possibilities in their way, sometimes at a particular phase in their career. They may be in a particular phase of their own creative journey. So a lot of people are just saying, ok, how do I create space for creativity in my life? Create space for creativity in my life? Simple act. Where do I resonate to, where do I see the potential in what I'm doing and opening up doorways for them? In terms of that, Great Sounds, amazing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, quite a few avenues of yeah, and I guess the you know the world is evolving and changing at what seems to be quite a rapid pace at the moment and so just finding those places, like with you know, with someone you who's a guide, who can hold and support, and um, I guess yeah, uh, help someone to find like safe, like a safe space, security within themselves, um, through these times, yeah, and you know, I I think I see that I see these two aspects running parallel, and so I so, just to be clear, yes, I agree.
Speaker 2:From an individual perspective, I think us settling within ourselves, finding spaces within ourselves, finding spaces to rest, to recuperate, to get into our own creative flow, very important so that, as we navigate the challenges that we're in, that we found a place in ourselves that we can find home. We can come back to that we have, irrespective of how turbulent the day is, we can come back to ourselves. We have our breath, we have our body, we have the capacity to ground ourselves within ourselves. So, yes, I agree, but also and I can't, I can't separate this anymore from the work the importance in finding a community now that can look like anything else, and with the wonder of the online communities that exist, with the wonder of the communities that exist even within wherever we live, finding those places.
Speaker 2:I was at a dance workshop on Sunday and there's a girl. It was her first time ever coming to dance. I would practice with a practice called five rhythms, open floor. It's a very movement, meditative process. So I was walking out with her at the end and she said, oh my god, I can't believe there were. There are places like this, that there are people that I can, places that I can go, people that I can be with that are as weird as me. Oh, we can get weirder. That was a Sunday, sunday morning, come on a.
Speaker 2:Come on a Saturday like Friday, you know, just finding places where you can express yourselves and that could be a walking group, you know, could be a choir, that could be your local, you know, um college, community college where you find an art class doesn't matter. But this idea that we're sole individuals on this individual track, having to sort and solve and create the whole world, is exhausting. So, find people and find places where you can go, where you can be yourself, that you can express yourself, because when you're in a community of people who also love the same things you do for example, dance you can begin to open up, loosen, accept, build confidence. All of those things you're trying to do as an isolated individual. When you get to do it in a group, it's just so much more powerful, amazing. So, yeah, here's hoping I can. I don't know. Interesting to see if I move to more community-based work in 2025, but I'm not sure about that yet. We'll see what emerges Sounds good.
Speaker 1:Thank you, Lucy, so much for joining us today. It's been a beautiful conversation. I really appreciate your time.
Speaker 2:Beginning of the day coming up for you. Yeah, thank you, nadine, and thank you for this podcast. I think I was saying before we started the recording. You know I'm I'm checking into to your podcast and the people that the conversations you're having, and it's great. So you're the one who's creating cases spaces there you go.
Speaker 1:I'm a creator, yay.
Speaker 2:Here's your part of the creative act.
Speaker 1:Yeah, these conversational spaces. Thank you so much, lucy. Take care, no worries, great to have you.